There is a time a place for everything right? Sex is no different…well maybe slightly different. There is an optimal “time” for sexual intercourse for us as women based on biological and hormonal factors. Now, the “place” part…well that depends on you and your man…bedroom, kitchen, shower, outside…okay you get it.
So first let’s discuss time of the month. For those of you who still have a cycle, this will be of interest to you and it may already be something you know. But for the women who don’t fully understand their body and think that it is just some uncontrollable hormone machine, you will find this helpful.
Now we all know that testosterone helps to increase sex drive. And even though it is most often spoken of as it pertains to men, girls, we have small amounts of testosterone as well and those amounts fluctuate according to where we are in our menstrual cycle. From day 24 of one cycle to day 13 of the next cycle our testosterone levels gradually rise. During this time, our sexual desire consistently increases because testosterone is linked to our sex drive. Day 13 is usually the day with the highest testosterone levels…meaning…this is “get it on for sure” day. Also, this is the period where you will reach orgasm the easiest for the entire month. So if you have problems with a lower libido and issues reaching your peak, try day 12- 14 (roughly the middle of your cycle) to help give yourself a biological and hormonal boost!
Have you ever noticed that you become a little more frisky during the last few days of your cycle? It’s because the lining of your urtherine thickens during this time which stimulates nerve endings making you feel aroused. If you haven’t been paying attention to your body, the next time your cycle is ending, make a mental note of how you are feeling sexually.
So here is a breakdown of how your desire fluctuates throughout the month…in my own words.
Day 1 (first day of cycle) to Day 14
You will feel more frisky and aroused with each day. Just go with it. From the morning of day 13 through the evening of Day 14, you could possibly have the best sex you will all month…not that your man will perform any differently, but your body, biologically will be easier to please sexually and more welcoming.
Day 15 – Day 23
Your testosterone is on the way down now. You may still want it, but your desire may decrease with each passing day. He may start to get on your nerves just a bit more and you may become “Mommy Dearest” with the kids. You could essentially be too aggravated to want sex by Day 19. I’m just telling you so that you will be aware that your hormones are fluctuating and you can make a consorted effort to stop yourself from being so difficult.
Day 24 until the end of your cycle
Surprisingly, your sex drive could have a little boost during this time. Even though your testosterone levels are on the way down, your utherine lining thickens and stimulates nerve endings making you feel aroused. All of a sudden, his socks on the floor and the hours of Xbox One and Playstation don’t matter as much. You may want to jump in the sac before “Aunt Flo” comes.
So, here it is ladies. The most important thing you need to take from this post. If you still have a menstrual cycle, and you want to have some great sex…I mean “the best session of the month”, get busy on Day 13 of your cycle in the morning. Why…well I have just explained to you why the 13thday (or just before the very middle of your cycle) is the best day for us. I specified the morning time because we all know that men are rock solid in the morning. If you are married, or have ever woke up beside a breathing adult male person, you know this is true in most cases. It is because the morning is the when a man’s testosterone peaks in his 24-hour hormone cycle.
If you are struggling with low libido, and you are premenopausal try the timing described above. Allow your biological and hormonal fluctuations to give you a boost. If you are post-menopausal, consider yourself lucky because you don’t have to deal with these fluctuations. But on the flip side, in many cases, women do experience a decrease in testosterone production. In this case you should really focus on natural methods (diet, exercise, and natural supplements), to help increase your drive and testosterone levels. You still should try to get it on in the morning during your man’s hormonal peak; however, the time of month is really irrelevant.
I hope you enjoyed this post and found it helpful. Let me know what you think. Shoot me an email at melinda@libifit.com
Timing is everything and we can use proper timing to help improve the quality of our sex lives and optimize our sexual encounters.
Till next time ladies…
Melinda